My baby brother was getting married (to a wonderful girl by the way) and we had a bridal shower. One of her friends came with her newborn. I could not resist asking if I could hold the baby. I had no clue who she was and she did not know me, but I didn't care - I just wanted to hold that baby! So the day went on and I continued to hold the baby. There is nothing better than new baby smell! Even better than new car smell. We started to chat and she asked me how many kids I had.
I hated being asked that. I hated explaining to people that I didn't have any. I wanted my response to be so different. I wanted to be able to relate to other women and talk about my pregnancy and my cravings and aches and pains. I wanted to say how easy my labor was or how perfect my baby's head was when it came out ( some weird obsession of mine). How I had the perfect hips for child bearing. I wanted to talk play dates and multi-tasking. Nope. I had to tell the sad truth........
I replied that I did not have any. Well, I did not have any of my own. I have a wonderful step-daughter, but no biological children. She was surprised and responded that I have such a wonderful way with babies - a natural - she said. I revealed that we had been trying for many many years with no luck but that I did indeed love babies and was hoping for one of my own someday. We switched subjects and the day carried on.
A few weeks passed and I received a message in my inbox. It was from her. She reached out to me to let me know that she too struggled with infertility and that she had a great doctor she wanted to refer me to if we were interested. She offered prayer, encouragement and an understanding ear. I thought it was so sweet. And although I was grateful for the referral, we still did not have coverage and could not afford to see her.
Several months passed and it was my birthday, October 2013. My sister-in-law pulled me aside to tell me that my brother and her would like to help us pay to see this doctor. I was so overwhelmed. What a great birthday gift. The gift that keeps on giving.............
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